tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-74128288604826401782024-03-14T00:00:18.992+11:00Was It Everything You Hoped It Would Be?Happiness. Disappointment. Sadness. Anger. Fear. Confusion. Disruption. Relaxation. Laughter. Fun. Love. Hope. Chaos.
All parts of life ...
Will you look back and say it was everything you hoped it would be?~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.comBlogger643125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-14898143980389739972016-02-04T19:38:00.002+11:002016-02-04T19:38:46.088+11:00I am broken
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
am broken. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
have felt broken for a long time now. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
don't know how to fix this. I don't know how to find that girl I used
to be. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
don't know how to be un-broken. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">*****</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Tomorrow,
I go back to work. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
have had two weeks off following surgery. It was much-needed, and I
hope that it will help me feel better and have more energy. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
want to cry at the thought of having to go back to work tomorrow. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
want to put my head down and cry until there are no tears left in me.
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
can't handle the thought of having to go back to that place, every
day. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">It's
not that I dislike the people - but the others there fight among
themselves, and I get caught in the middle. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">It's
exhausting. It's fucking exhausting. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
can't do it every day. It's making me miserable. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
feel physically sick at the thought of having to go back there
tomorrow. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I've
been looking for other jobs. I've gotten to the final stages three
different times then missed out every time. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">It's
crushing. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">But
staying is not an option. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">So
I'll pick myself up, dust myself off and try again. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">*****</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
need to make some changes. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
need to make a plan. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">I
need to find myself again. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Find
some happiness. </span></span></span>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Gisha, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Something.
Anything. </span></span></span>
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~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-65070420394730287322015-02-01T13:28:00.000+11:002015-02-01T13:28:05.847+11:00<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Last weeks goals:<br /><br /> - At least 12,000 steps a day - <span style="color: red;">No :-( My steps for the week were: 19,262 / 14,604 / 10,269 / 16,406 / 5,170 / 5,700 / 20, 057. Daily average was just over 13,000 steps, but didn't make 12,000 steps every day. </span><br /> - Salad and/or veggies at least 4 days this week<span style="color: red;"> No :-( Had no salad and was too broke to buy any food this week. Did get paid on Friday, however, and have salad and fresh fruit in the fridge. </span><br /> - Breakfast (yoghurt or eggs) at least 5 days a week <span style="color: red;">No ... and no excuses. Just unorganised in the morning. </span><br /> - At least three days with no lollies and/or chocolate and/or sweets I did two days ... <span style="color: red;">Slight improvement. </span><br /> - Work on cutting down Coke <span style="color: red;">Hasn't really happened yet, no</span> <br /> - At least 2L of water a day <span style="color: red;">Yes! </span><br /><br /><span style="color: lime;"> </span></span><br />
<span style="color: lime; font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"><strong><u>This weeks goals </u></strong></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- At least 10,000 steps every day, with at least 5 days hitting my goal (12,500) and work on being more active throughout the day </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- At least three days walking before work in the morning on the treadmill </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- Breakfast every morning </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- Salad and/or veggies at least 6 times this week </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- At least three days lollies/chocolate free</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- SERIOUSLY work on cutting down Coke </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">- At least 2L of water every day, more on the days when I am walking more</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">- Making work lunches at night so I have healthy food ready to go, that way there will be no excuses!! </span>~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-75470302231164398992015-01-28T21:25:00.001+11:002015-01-28T21:25:08.567+11:00Goal ... Achieved! <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Weekly progress ... 60,500 steps of 87,500 goal. ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-57982789088381272002015-01-28T19:07:00.000+11:002015-01-28T19:07:04.015+11:00Flat ... <div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Feeling really flat tonight. After 5 wonderful days off, I have to go back to work tomorrow. I feel ... anxious? ... unhappy? ... just down at the thought of going back tomorrow. I constantly feel like my job is in jeopardy, and I hate it. You shouldn't have to constantly worry about what you're saying or doing, but I know that one manager in particular will jump on ANYTHING that I do, even if I'm not doing the wrong thing! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I don't know. The sooner I find a new job, the better. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">The only thing I am looking forward to about work tomorrow is planning our mystery flights. It's the highlight of our social club year, hands down. And I get to organise it :-) Every year two groups are sent off for a day each to somewhere in Australia. Previously we've been to Brisbane, Sydney, Hobart, Adelaide and the Gold Coast. When we went to the Gold Coast, I was lucky enough to swim with the seals at Sea World. Due to things being so tight at the moment, wherever I end up it will have to be a very cheap day, but that's okay. Once we get to our destination, everyone is free to do whatever they want. Some people stay in groups and hire a car for the day (like we did in Hobart last year), others split up and spend the day on their own or with their partner. It's always a very long day, but fun. So tomorrow I'm hoping to organise and book the flights :-) Yay!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Anyway, I better go hop on the treadmill. Need to hit my Fitbit goal tonight, as I didn't yesterday. Will post a photo later :-) </span></div>
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~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-44158310592305682782015-01-25T17:54:00.003+11:002015-01-25T17:54:59.389+11:00Smashed my Fitbit goals today for the first time in weeks!! <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-27310036179090331582015-01-25T10:44:00.000+11:002015-01-25T10:44:14.932+11:00This weeks goals: <br />
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Starting today ... <br />
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- At least 12,000 steps a day<br />
- Salad and/or veggies at least 4 days this week<br />
- Breakfast (yoghurt or eggs) at least 5 days a week<br />
- At least three days with no lollies and/or chocolate and/or sweets <br />
- Work on cutting down Coke <br />
- At least 2L of water a day. <br />
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I will check in next Sunday to mark my progress ... <br />
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Little steps :-) Little changes, a bit at a time. <br />
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-88714686483414288922015-01-23T22:56:00.001+11:002015-01-23T23:00:47.052+11:00<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">So tonight, I write on my fancy-pants, shiny new laptop. Which I did not purchase, technically. And I haven't taken up stealing ... </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">See, a couple of weeks ago, a guy at work got fired. Some say fairly, some say unfairly. I don't know. Truth is, I don't think anyone knows the full story except for this guy. Anyway. His wife asked me to do up a new resume for him, and being the sucker that I am, I said yes. I went to do it one night, and my computer wouldn't turn on. Again. For the third time in thirteen months, my laptop had failed. Luckily, since it was a few years old, I had extended warranty on it. So I took the laptop back to the retailer I purchased it from, and asked that it be sent away and checked, but once it had been verified that it was a fault, I didn't want it fixed/repaired again since it had already failed twice. I wanted a replacement. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Naturally, they rang me the following week and said "we will repair it, end of story". I then wrote a formal complaint to the store, bearing in mind that even though the laptop was a few years old, I had paid a lot of money for it (almost $2000) and it was very well taken care of. I don't think it's acceptable to have it fail three times in 13 months. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">So we went back and forth for a bit, then I got talking to a very cool manager at this store, who is one of the most genuinely nice people I've ever met. He talked to the repair people, and sorted out a solution that everyone was happy with. The replacement that I was given is a few months old and was sent in through their current warranty program, where they replace faulty machines on the spot with a completely new one, and fix the old ones, even if the fault is minor. In the case of this machine, there was a minor fault with the keyboard, which is why it was sent in for replacement and why I ended up with it :-) </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">(Sometimes it pays to be the whiny complainer person.)</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Anyway. Two things of note happened today. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Today I went to the funeral of a 21 year old kid (the son of a workmate) who died in a car accident last week. He was speeding, and like all kids, thought he was invincible. Now a family is heartbroken, a mother and father have lost a son, and forever more their family photos will only have four in them instead of five. I hurt for his mum and dad, who are just the most beautiful and lovely people you've ever met in your life. I don't understand why this shit happens, and why it happens to good people. I know that kids will continue to kill themselves in cars until the end of time because they think nothing can hurt them, and it just seems so fucking unfair. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It was a beautiful service, a nice way to say goodbye to a good kid. It was a huge turnout. He will be so sadly missed by so many. May you rest in peace. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The other thing happened on the way to the funeral. I received an email telling me that I had progressed to the second stage of the recruitment process for the job that I really, really want. The second stage is a timed online test that must be completed within 48 hours. I did it tonight, and found it really, really frigging hard. I don't know why I'm so surprised, it's not an easy job, of course getting into it is going to be hard. But the test was MUCH more difficult than I thought it was going to be. The second part of the test was okay. Not easy, not hard, and I think I did okay. The first part, however ... I'm not so sure. Fingers crossed that I have done enough to pass and get to the next stage of the process! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Okay, after a big day, I think it's almost bed time. It's been ridiculously hot here the last few days, but tonight the cool change has finally hit and it's dropped to about 25, which is so nice. Actually, my new laptop tells me the temperature, so let me look ... It's currently 22. Tomorrow is the first day of the Australia Day long weekend, and I took a couple of extra days so I now have FIVE WHOLE DAYS OFF ... Yes, that's FIVE WHOLE DAYS WHERE I DON'T HAVE TO GO TO WORK!!! Hahahaha. I'm very excited :-) I may even write again in the next few days!!! </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Goodnight all! </span></div>
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-36603017224164608202015-01-18T18:25:00.001+11:002015-01-18T18:25:58.180+11:00Random thoughts ... I always think of the future as awesome ... Because who knows where you're going to be in 6 months time? In a year? Your life could be completely different ... How cool is that. You might live somewhere new, or have your dream job. <br />
In six months ... I could have a new job. I've applied for a job that I really, really want. A job that would use my degree, and could lead to a lot of opportunities. A job that could possibly lead to a new place to live, otherwise it will be a 40 minute drive to work.<br />
I really want this job. If only to get away from my current place of employment, which I hate. I never thought I'd be so unhappy at the place I've worked for almost seven years, but every day I have to go back there makes me miserable. I cannot wait to leave. I've already written my resignation letter. Even if I don't get my dream job, I will take ANY other job to get out of there. <br />
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I can't remember the last time I walked the dogs. The littlest one lost her collar weeks ago, and I've only just replaced it today. The truth is, I've been in a funk, and I can't shake it. I get home from work, and I do nothing. I sit on the couch, and I watch tv or muck around with my iPad until it's time for dinner then bed. I have no energy, no interest in doing anything. I sit outside with the dogs for hours sometimes, just patting them and hanging out. But I seem to have lost my mojo and I can't find it again. <br />
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I have applied to go back to uni this year - well, part time and online, anyway. It's a Graduate Certificate in a specialised area that I think will help me find work in an area I'm really interested in. And if I get my dream job, then it will be an advantage there too. If I get accepted, study starts in March. <br />
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I desperately need to do something about my weight. I have never been as heavy as I am now, and I cannot even imagine what happens if I don't change something. I know I need to make small changes and try, but it all seems so hard. Tomorrow, though ... I am really going to try. <br />
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Relay for Life is next month. I can't wait.<br />
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I bought a new car about 4 months ago ... I LOVE IT. I LOVE TO DRIVE IT. I'm thinking of going to the beach in the next couple of weeks and doing the walk from Jan Juc to Bells, or doing the Jan Juc "Boobies" (steps). I did it a few years ago and could hardly walk the next day. ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-87483281756766746482014-08-06T19:53:00.002+10:002014-08-06T19:55:28.775+10:00<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 0pt; text-align: justify;">
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">To be a victim of a violent crime throws your world upside down. I could sit all day and list all the ways in which my life has changed since I was raped, and I wouldn’t run out of things to tell you. I do not recognise the person I was before the rape, and I do not ever think that I will be that person again. The changes in my life, in me, have been enormous. This has affected my work, my personal life, my drive, my ambition, my sleeping habits and my entire experience as a person. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">I look at our system, and I think that even though I’m struggling terribly financially, I know I am “lucky”. I would hate to be the victim of a crime who is unable to work, and who has no means of supporting themselves financially. This VOCAT system is broken. Can you imagine having nothing to live on for months and months while VOCAT decide your future? Financially, the rape destroyed me. A lot of the work I missed was unpaid. I went from being someone who always paid bills before they were due, and never missed a loan or insurance payment to someone who constantly struggles. Every bill I have is paid well after its due date. I cannot have emergencies, as I cannot afford them. I know there are millions of Australians out there who have the same experience with money, but to me, this is new and another after effect of the rape. I have lost control in yet another area of my life, and it is devastating.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt;"><span style="color: black;">I would love for a VOCAT member to actually put themselves in the shoes of a victim. To realise how overwhelming and upsetting the system is to someone who is already distressed and fragile. I do not know how much longer I can hold on, and to feel so utterly and completely helpless is just awful. The VOCAT system is full of unknowns, with no timeline for resolution and it’s not right to put someone who has already experienced something so traumatic and upsetting through another experience that can also be described using those same words – traumatic and upsetting. VOCAT needs a better process, whether that be setting timelines so victims know what they can reasonably expect, or creating a way for victims to be heard as efficiently as possible</span></span></div>
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-55495671563920141032014-08-05T18:57:00.001+10:002014-08-05T18:57:25.472+10:00Tonight, I'm so tired. <br />
I can't stop crying, and I think I'm just overwhelmed and exhausted. <br />
There is still no resolution to the Victims of Crime stuff. I am still waiting. <br />
I feel like there's no hope, like there will never be an end to this. <br />
It's no fair. It's not right. <br />
I'm tired of struggling. I'm tired of waiting. <br />
Today I walked to work, and tomorrow I'll walk to work. It will take me an hour and a half, but at least I won't be using my car, and I won't be using any petrol. <br />
I can't go out with friends on Saturday night, because even though it's only to cost $30, I don't even have that. <br />
I can't do this much longer. I feel like I'm just barely hanging on, and I'm going to fall any second. <br />
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-32140085553145717412014-07-19T20:00:00.002+10:002014-07-19T20:00:51.374+10:00Sometimes ... Sometimes I miss the girl I was before the rape. <br />
Sometimes I can hardly remember what that girl was like. <br />
Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be anything close to that girl again. <br />
Sometimes I wonder what the hell I did to deserve this. <br />
<br />
<br />
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-27517297391588495412014-07-06T00:38:00.002+10:002014-07-06T00:42:26.902+10:00Fighting ... <div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes, I get tired of fighting. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes, I just want to sit down and give up, because I feel like I've had my fair share ... and then some. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes, I wonder how I've made it this far, after everything that's been thrown at me. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes, I think I'm such a badass motherfucker because I've survived and I've kept going, even after all the damn obstacles that have been thrown in my path. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
</div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">But sometimes, like tonight, it's just all to much. It's overwhelming, and I feel like I have to fight for everything lately. Why do I have to fight so fucking hard? </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span> </div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">My state has a Victims of Crime Assistance program. You can apply for compensation for lost wages, which occurred as a result of the crime. I have missed a lot of work since the rape. For counselling mainly, with a few doctors appointments as well. All that time was unpaid. The amount of money is substantial - well over $5000. I put my claim in last March. It has been 16 months, and we are still waiting for the claim to be heard. The first lawyer who handled the case caused delay after delay. In March of this year, I changed to another lawyer. The first one either could not or would not provide my file to the new lawyer, further delaying my case. Three and a half weeks ago, I had to go see a psychologist to have a report written stating that I need to attend counselling. The psychologist stated it would take two weeks for the report to be written and submitted to </span><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">the court. We are still waiting. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span> </div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I don't understand why it's all so fucking hard. It's all so fucking complicated, and I'm so fucking tired of it. I've had enough. I just want it to be done. It has been two years since my rape, and I feel like this whole process is keeping the wound open. I cannot heal because this is so unfinished. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span> </div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I have to constantly remind the lawyer to chase things up. Why do I have to do that? I feel like it's more fighting that I have to do. I'm just so tired of it all. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span> </div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I had to move house 6 weeks ago. After the rent went up at my old place, I couldn't afford to stay any longer. So I packed up my life and moved to a new, cheaper house. It's older, nowhere near as nice as my old place, but that's okay. I loved the fact that it had a garage so I could walk to work (my work is in walking distance, it's ridiculously close) and hide my car in the garage. I HATE that my rapist knows my car. I HATE that he could figure out I'd moved, just by seeing my car at the new place. Unfortunately, what I didn't realise was that the garage is unusable. It's jammed/broken. So now I have no choice but to park my car out on the street. I've taken to parking a few houses away. Even though the chances of my rapist finding me/stalking me again are pretty slim, it's still a big fear that I have, and I feel a tiny bit safer having taken some small precautions. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span> </div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I did of course ring the real estate and ask them to have a look at the garage, and then a week later I called them and asked them to have a look at the lock on my back door which has jammed ... And neither of those things have been done. It's been four weeks since the requests, and nothing ... I don't have any fight left in me to get them to do the maintenance that should be done. I just can't keep fighting, I need to pick my battles. </span></div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span> </div>
<div style="text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Work has also been one constant battle after another. My company took over another company 18 months ago. Some of those people at the company we took over are STILL fighting change and refusing to do things the way our company wants us to do them. It's resulted in me starting work at 6:30 some mornings, finishing late, and doing other peoples work because they just don't feel like doing it. I'm so tired of it! I'm pissed off. I watch these people who "choose" what they want to do, and just ignore everything else. How is that fair? Sure, leave the shitty jobs for everyone else, why the hell not? Again, I've given up fighting. I have tried and tried. I even went to HR, which is a HUGE step for me, because I hate conflict and upsetting people. Our HR manager tried to sort something out ... But the opposition she faced was obviously too much, so she just gave up. So I'll just go to work, do my shit, and come home. No overtime, no doing work that isn't mine, no going out of my way to help people who don't give a shit about me or won't help me. </span></div>
<br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Anyway, this is just the cheeriest little update ever, isn't it? I guess it's just loose change, which has been floating around in my head for the last few weeks, and I need to get it out. I'm hoping against hope that the psychologists report will go in this week and the Victims of Crime people can finally decide whether or not I'm entitled to lost wages. I'm hoping that the real estate will actually get back to me and fix my frigging door and garage. I'm hoping that I can stop fighting for every damn thing and just start living and laughing again. </span>~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-9554878910041271362014-03-16T17:12:00.003+11:002014-03-16T17:12:36.360+11:00<span style="font-family: Calibri;">So. </span><br />
<br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I think I am depressed. </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It’s a funk I’ve fallen into, and I can’t get out of it. <br />
<br />
</span><span style="font-family: Calibri;">I don’t know how to shake it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I’m tired all the time. I feel down all the time. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-AU; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Calibri","sans-serif"; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 115%; mso-ansi-language: EN-AU; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">I don’t know how to fix this.</span>~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-80789729244498390222014-03-14T20:02:00.002+11:002014-03-14T20:02:47.758+11:00Struggling ...
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sometimes its so hard. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It’s so fucking hard to remain
positive, to keep going when everything is so fucking discouraging. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">It’s so hard to pick yourself up
time and time again; knowing that you’re just going to get knocked over again, because
that’s the way the world is going for you at the moment. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Financially, the rape has killed
me. I have missed, and continue to miss, a lot of work because of what
happened. When I had a housemate, I had someone to help share the load. Now
that she is gone, and I’m alone, I have no one to help out. I really don’t want
to get another housemate in, simply because there are nights where I have
nightmares, there are nights when I feel so upset about what happened all I can
do is cry. Who wants someone to see them like that? There are days when I get
home from work, and I just want to be alone. I can’t handle having anyone near
me. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Today, I got notice that my rent
is being increased. $20 a fortnight. Doesn’t sound like much until you realise
that I just got paid yesterday, and I have $16 left in the bank to last me the
fortnight. I don’t know how I’m going to make it work. I either have to stop
going to counselling – every week I miss four hours work on a Monday to attend
counselling, so I’m missing a full day at work every fortnight, all unpaid –
and manage without that release of talking to my counsellor, or I have to
figure out some other way to make things work. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I’m so fucking exhausted. I’ve
had enough of trying to figure everything out, of having to deal with everything
on my own. Of having to find a solution to every single fucking problem that
comes at me. </span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">I hate being negative. I’m always
an optimist. I’m always a positive person. I roll with the punches. I’ve done
it this whole time, and everything that has been thrown at me, I’ve taken it in
stride, and just kept moving. But now ... I don’t know how much longer I can do
it. I feel like I’m reaching the end of my rope. I can’t handle much more. I
need something to hold on to, something positive, something helpful or happy to
keep me going. </span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri;">Because tonight, I’m really
struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel. </span></div>
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-19885091660624157652014-03-13T20:45:00.000+11:002014-03-13T20:45:03.855+11:00So. <br />
<br />
A couple of weeks back, I went to a free legal centre to get some advice on reopening my case, and getting the police to review their decision. The lawyer I spoke to was awesome. She was really helpful, and even though I felt a little like she tried to talk me out of asking them to review the case, I think she was just trying to ensure I really understood what I would be in for if we were successful in getting the police to press charges. <br />
<br />
Anyway. Since then, it's been a rough couple of weeks. We lost one of our people at work, unexpectedly. She passed away in her sleep, at only 43 years old. She is - was - one of the most beautiful people I know. She was so content with her life, even though it wasn't perfect. She was quiet, but always quick to laugh and have a joke. She had OCD, and led a very regimented life, but she was so happy within herself. She didn't give a damn what anyone thought of her. The same day, one of our guys was taken away in an ambulance with a suspected heart attack. He spent some time in hospital, and although they couldn't figure out what was wrong, he has been released and they're sure it was something other than a heart attack. <br />
<br />
In the middle of all that, I missed a call from the lawyer. She was ringing to tell me that she'd spoken to the police, and they strongly advised against reviewing the case because they didn't think there was much point. She didn't give the reasons why - I had to ring to make an appointment for tomorrow (Friday 14th) to find out why. <br />
<br />
I always said that I didn't care if the review went nowhere. At least I'd tried, right? No stone unturned. I didn't want to have any regrets. I could deal with the answer either way, and I'd be okay. <br />
<br />
But I won't lie ... When I heard the voicemail from the lawyer, saying that there didn't seem to much point in pursuing it, I wanted to cry. The disappointment was crushing. Again. Been there, done that, didn't expect to do it again. Sometimes I hate being an optimist. It friggin stinks. <br />
<br />So I guess I'll head to this appointment tomorrow, and see what the lawyer has to say. I'm sure you'll hear from me again tomorrow night ... One way or the other :) ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-30262216105710141402014-03-04T21:15:00.000+11:002014-03-04T21:15:54.140+11:00If you had asked me, even just six weeks ago, if I loved my job, if it made me really happy, I would have said yes. <br />
<br />
Of course, I had things I disliked. Sometimes the attitudes of some of the people I work with drive me crazy at times. Of course, I had days where I couldn't wait to leave, or when I didn't even want to go to work. <br />
<br />
But most of the time, I felt like the luckiest person in the world. A good job, that was 90% fun. <br />
<br />
Now ... Now, I hate it/ HATE it. I feel anxious when I'm going to work. I feel sick with fear while I'm at work.<br />
<br />
Will today be the day I lose my job? Will today be the day I do something else that's insignificant and upset the boss? <br />
<br />
I hate this. I hate it so very much. <br />
<br />
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-69104530451233430062014-02-28T20:28:00.002+11:002014-02-28T20:28:21.792+11:00
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">As
of tomorrow, I’m looking for a new job. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I’m
no longer happy where I am. Two weeks ago, I was given a first and final
warning for something that I don’t believe warranted a first AND final warning.
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">After
almost six years, I get one warning? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I
feel as if my job is constantly in jeopardy. I did not see the warning coming. I
know the big boss has been unhappy with me because I have had a bit of time off
recently (all rape-related – court, counselling, etc). I think the fact that I was
meant to be leaving this year to go to uni in Shepp has also pissed him off. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
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<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I
just feel like they no longer want me there – or at least, he doesn’t. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">It’s
not the fun, great, team-oriented place to work that it used to be. Almost everyone
there is stressed, unhappy, and wants to leave. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I
can’t wait for them to take my job. It’s not worth the risk to me. So now that
final exams are over, I will start looking elsewhere. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">It’s
so disappointing. I really thought that I would be with the same company until I
got my degree and moved on, happily and with no hard feelings. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Now
I want to get out as quickly as possible. To find my happiness again, to feel
safe and secure and to ensure that I can keep the house and keep the dogs fed. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 0cm 0cm 10pt; text-align: justify;">
<span style="font-family: "Khmer UI","sans-serif"; font-size: 10pt; line-height: 115%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">I
guess we’ll see what happens. In the meantime, I’ll keep my head down and try
not to upset anyone or lose my job while I’m looking for something else. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-47362277752532633392014-01-23T22:04:00.001+11:002014-01-23T22:04:04.324+11:00Stupidly optimistic ... <span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes I think we get what we deserve. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Not in terms of tragedies or horrible things. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">But when we don't stand up for ourselves,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">When we let someone walk all over us,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">We show them it's okay to do that. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It's okay to treat us like crap, because hell, it's not as if we're going to stand up and say, "Hey, don't do that!" </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I've been seeing a new guy. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He is really, really lovely. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Funny, and smart, and he challenges me like crazy. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">But twice since Monday, and three times in the last seven days, we've had plans, and he has either cancelled or just hasn't shown up. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Last week, he was coming around after cricket training. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He didn't show. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Tuesday, he was coming around after work. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He didn't show. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Tonight, he was coming around after work. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I sent him a text just before 5 to tell him that I'm home. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Then, and only then, does he decide to tell me he's a few hours away and won't be home until after 9. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I keep wondering, "what have I done??" </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I just want a decent guy. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">One who makes plans, and keeps them. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">One who makes time for me, and understands that I have to make time for him, because I have work and uni. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I don't want someone who is there all the time. I don't need that. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I don't need to be attached to someone 24 hours a day. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I just want someone to hang out with. Have a few laughs, some fun. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Don't I deserve someone who won't cancel on me at the last minute? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Someone who won't just disappear, then reappear the next day when it suits him? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'm patient. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Sometimes I'm too patient for my own good. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I'll give you a second, third and fourth chance. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Even when it's obvious to everyone else around me that you don't deserve it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">But tonight, I can't help but wonder ...</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Is this when I put my foot down? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Does he deserve another chance? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Should I be standing up for myself and saying, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">"Hell no. You don't get to treat me like this. There for whenever you happen to be free." </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Either you make time for me - and you follow through and show up when you're going to - or you lose me. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"> </span><br />
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~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-25729959458011771962014-01-21T21:04:00.000+11:002014-01-21T21:10:12.630+11:00<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes I'm amazed at how far I've come in the last 19 months. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes I feel like I've been through the worst of it, and I'm coming out the other side. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I made it. I'm a survivor. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And then sometimes, life hands me a reality check, and I realise that I'm nowhere close to coming out the other side. I haven't really dealt with this. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I've still got so far to go. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Sometimes I can't believe the changes in me, when I look at the person I was before the rape, and the person that I am now. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Some of the changes are pretty obvious. I'm less trusting. I'm more fearful. I have nightmares, flashbacks. I suffer from anxiety now, and can't handle huge crowds. Sometimes even small crowds are too much if I'm having a bad day. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Other changes are not so obvious. I'm angrier, inside. I'm more bitter. I'm quicker to judge people. I get annoyed faster. My patience used to be almost endless. Not anymore. I've gained a lot of weight. I eat for ... Comfort? I eat because I don't care enough to take care of myself sometimes. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Late last year, the police told me they didn't have enough to press charges. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">That it was my word against his, with not much evidence to back me up. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I knew what the outcome would be when I made my statement to police to start the investigation. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I always knew they'd find it almost impossible to get enough to charge him. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">But still, I went ahead. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It was never about getting him charged. It was never about having the case go before a jury. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It was about standing up and saying, "What you did was wrong. I should not have let you get away with it. I'm telling someone, and I'm making my voice heard, and maybe, just maybe that will be enough to stop you ever doing it again."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">There was a part of me that wanted to cause him hell. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">That wanted vengeance. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">That wanted to put him through something, anything. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It was nothing compared to the nightmare I went through, but I knew they wouldn't charge him, so it was all I'd get. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And then they called me, and they said, "Sorry. We can't charge him."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And I went to pieces. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I fell apart. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I knew it was coming, I knew they'd find it incredibly difficult to get enough, but there was the tiniest part of me that kept thinking, "He did something really fucking awful. He did something so horrible, so traumatic to me that they HAVE to find a way to make him pay. They'll find something, and they'll be able to charge him. He will pay. He will pay for raping me, for making me think he was going to kill me. He will pay for turning my whole life upside down, and inside out."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">But they couldn't do it. There wasn't a piece of evidence that made them go, "Aha! We can charge the prick!" </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">So once again, I picked myself up, and put myself back together.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I gathered my courage, and tried to move on. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I took comfort from the fact that they told me that he was ringing the police station constantly. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Trying to find out what was happening with the investigation. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Whether he would be charged.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Ringing the station, all the time.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">"What's happening? Are you going to press charges?"</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">(Guilty conscience, anyone?) </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">That was my comfort. That was all I was going to get. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">So I grabbed it with both hands, knowing the truth about it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Knowing that every dog has it's day. He'll get his. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">One day, he'll pay. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And I thought, that that was it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">That I had my closure, and I could move on. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I knew the outcome. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I had tried to fight, but it wasn't enough. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The regrets haunted me. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Why didn't I go forward sooner? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Why didn't I keep the evidence of the stalking, the terror that he'd put me through? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">How many times could I second-guess myself? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">How many times could I think the same thoughts, over and over? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">How many times could I think about the same regrets, over and over? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">It was done. Finished. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He was going to get away with it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">That was on me. That was my fault. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And then, last week, I had to go to court. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">For something that's sort of related. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And the Magistrate. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The lovely Magistrate. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Looked me right in the eye, and asked me to stand. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">So he could speak directly to me. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">Because he had something important to say, you see. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He told me that he had read the entire police brief. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He read my statement. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">What happened to me. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He read the interview they did with the rapist. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He read through all the statements they took to support my story. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">All the investigation the police did. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The medical records. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">The reports. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">And he had the most curious look on his face, as he told me, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">"They made a mistake. I do not understand why they didn't charge him. In my view, they had enough." </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He made sure he still had my full attention, and he continued, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">"They had more that enough, to charge him. To take it before a court" </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">I wanted to ask him what he saw. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">What was in that file? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">What did you see, Sir? What did you see that made you feel that way? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif;">He suggested to me that I ask my lawyer to contact the Office of Public prosecutions, and ask them to review the case. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">That they can override the police decision, if they agree with him. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">They can have charges laid. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">So now I have to wonder ... </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Is it worth reopening the wound? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Is there any point to taking a chance? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Risking the disappointment when they tell me they still don't have enough to charge him?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I had made my peace. I took their decision not to press charges, and I made my peace with it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">it was difficult. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">It broke my heart, and crushed my spirit. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">But then, I got up again, and kept moving. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Can I do that again? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Or, what if they agree? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">What if they say, "yes, we can charge him."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">"The police made an error."</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Can I face a trial? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Do I have the strength? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Can I tell the world what he did to me? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Can I take the humiliation, the hurt that I know a trial will bring? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">Am I strong enough? </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">I've already picked up the pieces so many times. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">One day, I'm going to break. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;">And I won't be able to put myself back together. </span>~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-28192914687292288542013-06-18T22:44:00.001+10:002013-06-18T22:44:31.588+10:00<span style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px">Maybe it is time to move. </span><div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px"><br></div><div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px"> This whole time, I have been so proud of myself because I felt like I wouldn't let him push me out of my house. Like I'd survived the worst he could do to me, and then said to him, "fuck you. You won't force me from my own house, the one place in the world that's meant to be completely safe for me." </div> <div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px"><br></div><div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px">But lately ... Lately I'm reminded every where I look that he's still around. That even though I might not see him, he's still there. Still hanging around, meaning that I get constant reminders of what happened. Like tiny little shocks, over and over. And at some point, you think the shock will lessen, that you will get used to it and it won't affect you anymore ... But it hasn't happened like that. It still hurts every single time. It still makes me flash back, every single time. It still shocks me, upsets me and puts me ten steps backwards, every single time. </div> <div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px"><br></div><div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px">And I'm getting so, so tired of it. </div><div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px"> <br></div><div style="font-family:MarkerFelt-Thin;font-size:18px;line-height:24px">Maybe it's time to move. </div> ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-50862935686529210772013-06-14T18:48:00.002+10:002013-06-14T18:48:27.177+10:00Ocean Gove/Jan Juc/Torquay/Barwon Heads - December 2012 <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<br />~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-2258756666567176732013-06-08T21:38:00.001+10:002013-06-08T21:38:02.235+10:00<div><br></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">I wonder if you know.</span></font></p><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"> <font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">Do you know who he is? What he is? This person that you're apparently engaged to … Do you know what kind of person he is? Deep down inside? Do you know what he's done?</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">Do you know that almost one year ago, he held me down and raped me, so brutally that I bled? That when I told him he had made me bleed, he simply laughed … Do you know that?</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">I wonder what he's told you. Has he told you that it was consensual? Maybe he told you that I wanted it, that I changed my mind afterwards?</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">Maybe he's told you it was nothing.</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">It wasn't "nothing". It wasn't consensual. I was begging him to stop. I cried and I begged, while it felt like he was ripping me apart.</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">I wonder if he's told you that I'm just trying to ruin his life. That I'm just trying to cause trouble.<span></span></span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">I'm not. I could care less about him. I just want him to pay for what he did.</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">Because he knows. Deep down, whether he admits it or not, he knows what he did. He won't tell you that he raped me … But that's what happened. And he knows it. And so do I.</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">I wonder if you know.</span></font></p> <span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)"><font></font></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:-webkit-auto;margin:0cm 0cm 10pt;padding:0px"><font><span style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">I wonder if you'll find out the hard way what kind of person he is.</span></font></p> <div><span style="font-family:'Khmer UI',sans-serif"><br></span></div><font face="Times New Roman" style="font-size:16px;line-height:normal"></font></div> ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-59295099097499817472013-06-04T22:44:00.001+10:002013-06-04T22:44:51.573+10:00Home sweet home ...<p class="mobile-photo"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-DixzldmQCE0/Ua3hREszDjI/AAAAAAAAAq8/SdH0XV4SSH0/s1600/image-791573.jpg"><img src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-DixzldmQCE0/Ua3hREszDjI/AAAAAAAAAq8/SdH0XV4SSH0/s320/image-791573.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5885607971478769202" /></a></p><p class="mobile-photo"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-zbyBp9IDUZs/Ua3hRfxj0LI/AAAAAAAAArE/R6C5UIDJrzI/s1600/image-793302.jpg"><img src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-zbyBp9IDUZs/Ua3hRfxj0LI/AAAAAAAAArE/R6C5UIDJrzI/s320/image-793302.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5885607978746499250" /></a></p><p class="mobile-photo"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-G9aqPLtFJXc/Ua3hRwJoEKI/AAAAAAAAArM/h1sxvvut8_8/s1600/image-794891.jpg"><img src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-G9aqPLtFJXc/Ua3hRwJoEKI/AAAAAAAAArM/h1sxvvut8_8/s320/image-794891.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5885607983142408354" /></a></p>Just a couple of photos from our lightning fast QLD trip ... Did the Mary cairns Cross Rainforest walk and visited the Glasshouse Mountains. It never ceases to amaze me how beautiful Queensland is. <div>Sad to be home and back to reality, but aldo nice to be in my own bed. <span></span></div> <div><br></div> ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7412828860482640178.post-27253987043430067242013-06-03T22:59:00.001+10:002013-06-03T22:59:41.141+10:00Stronger ...<div><font><em style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">You didn't think that I'd come back<br>I'd come back swinging<br>You try to break me, but you see</em></font></div><div><em><font style="line-height:normal;background-color:rgba(255,255,255,0)">What doesn't kill you makes you stronger<br> Stand a little taller<br>What doesn't kill you makes a fighter</font></em></div> ~*~Snappz~*~http://www.blogger.com/profile/08083449890551702675noreply@blogger.com0